This is SO true!! I have someone special in my life right now and through out the years of our lives, we were together but, never really "knew" each other and weren't even friends really....sad I know to spend so many years with someone and then for something unthinkable to happen and change things!! I have found that forgiveness can open the doors to things that might not of been there or clear to you in the first place. It's been a hard last 2 1/2-3 years. Things have gone on that I don't wish on anyone else to ever go through. And it was very hard on my family, all of us, each of us it hit in a different way. But through all this crap, something special came out of it, a newborn friendship that we hadn't had before and probably wouldn't of had if things wouldn't of happened like they did. And a new found love for each other and respect for each other that also wouldn't of happened for me I know if things/events that happened leading into this. I didn't right away forgive...it takes time. I had to look in myself and forgive myself for the part that I thought that I played in the events that happened, and without doing that for myself which took months, things wouldn't be where they are today. So I am thankful that the storms that we have went through have made us better in so many ways and that positive things are coming out of it and not just for me but for others in my family as well. So I am very thankful that as the saying says "someone makes me smile even when they're not around" so true....I get to talk to him on the phone and lots of letter writing which is great for both of us and so much more personal than what we can sometimes say in person b/c sometimes the words just don't or won't come out the right way but, with writing, that's a different story. So I wish everyone that reads this that they find or have that special someone that makes them smile even when they're not around...it helps to have that at times when you don't think that you can go any further or at times when you just need a hug etc. I wish you each the best in your lives and nothing but goodness and positive things for as long as you're on this earth!!